Guys VS Girls: how do you understand them?

And we are back! hurrah! I'm kinda loving blogging again :) Today's topic to cover is... how to understand guys and girls! Now... I'm a girl... so I'm probably going to explain more of the girl thing than the guy thing because frankly, guys confuse me to death. :P And knowing me... I probably confuse them to death too! (woops hehe) So lets dig into this!

About Girls:

Funny one, but one commonly asked... why do girls go to the bathroom in groups? 

Have you seen Harry Potter and all the things that happen to the girls in the bathrooms?! Its sooo not safe! :P Trolls, spells, curses, ect... On a more serious note, we do it because a) there are safety in numbers (who knows when a creep will be around?!) b) sometimes we're emotional and need the excuse to breath and have our friends stop us from freaking out c) we're girls... we like to be in groups. Guys, you may just never understand that.

How do you know if a girl likes you?

Umm... well... we will stand different around you. Better posture! We will want to talk to you and get to know you (its how we show that we care). We will probably touch your arm or your hand lightly when we talk to you. If you say something funny we will laugh... just to show you that we think you're funny (and kinda cute...).  More than likely we will play with our hair. Smile more often. Our voice might become a bit higher when we talk. Dont ask me why... I still dont understand it and I'm a girl... :P

About guys:

How come guys flip around so fast? First they like you, then they dont, then they do... ect... 

Funny thing... guys and girls are both growing and learning, and both of them get confused. As much as guys will deny it, they also have to deal with hormone changes. They also might be struggling with the stress from school, family, friends, sports, or other more personal internal struggles. It may be one thing or a combination of things. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, they just are struggling with something and need time/space to work it out! Thats totally ok too! :) Just make sure that you respect that. (again, with the respect) And remember, girls, you do this too! Give them grace because you expect grace back from them.



Both:

Why do girls tend to talk more and guys less? Are girls just clingy and guys complete introverts or what?

Strangely enough, this is something that either works super well or terribly bad. For the girl part of this, why do they talk so much, its because well... we're girls! We talk to show we care. Its probably one of the top love languages for most girls. Most girls don't intend to come off as clingy, they just want to show they care and they want to know you. Some of them may actually be clingy (no, its not a good thing), but the majority of girls just want to care and show it, but don't really know how to. There are some girls who are quiet though, and thats ok too!
For the guys' part in this, there are some guys who LOVE to talk! They just enjoy it. There are others who are more the quiet type though. They aren't really introverts, and they like to talk, but they need their space.

How do they fit together? Well... basically they communicate their needs to eachother! The guy tells the girl when he needs space or the girl tells the guy when she needs space, and they try to be sure they are serving the other persons needs too. Remember! Girls and guys are so different (normally) when it comes to talking! But if you are in a relationship... communication is key! Really, it is. Just talk to eachother and tell eachother your needs! It helps :) If you dont, then one of you will either give too much and not get enough, or one will become super annoyed, or both! But please, do not be needy... that gets old... fast :P


How do you know what they want?

Girls: Basically as a girl, we want to be loved! In ways, we want the exact same thing as guys. We want to be loved, feel unique beautiful and wonderful, belong, and have stability. However, as much as we also want respect, we desire to be loved almost more. Silly in some ways... but part of what makes us the "lovey/mushy/sweet" half. :P (sorry guys)
Guys: Guys want to be respected! Crazy I know, but a guy really values a girl's respect and the respect of those around him. Guys do want to belong and to be loved and feel wanted, but unless you respect their masculinity while doing it... they wont be too impressed.

In all honestly, girls and guys want the same thing. To live, to love, and to be loved in return. They just seek it in different ways.

Now it is my bed time... so I hope you enjoy the post and it helps you understand a little tiny bit into the lives of guys and girls. :) Remember... God understands us, even when we dont!

God Bless!
Breanna