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Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Dating and "love"- My Thoughts

Mkay… soo… I was reading my Bible this morning and came across some verses that made me think. I wanted to share my thoughts with you all and maybe possibly get you guys to think too. J
So here it goes… Today many teenagers (an some adults) believe that they “love” someone. They think because they are dating someone or are highly attracted to someone they “love” them. And the TRUTH is… you more than likely don’t (sorry if I’m bursting your bubbles.) Love is so much more than that attraction you feel for your bf/gf. That feeling could lead to love, I’m not going to say it won’t, but a physical attraction to someone isn’t love, its attraction.
Many teenagers, and even adults, choose to get into relationships where they know it won’t be long term. They give all their emotions, thoughts, and desires to the relationship and forget about everything else, even God. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” How are we to guard our hearts if we flippantly give it away to whomever we are attracted to? The answer is simple, yet so very hard to do in this world. We choose NOT to give away our hearts. The world may say that you have to have a bf/gf to mean anything or be important, but the truth is… You are already the most important person in the world to God. I am God’s daughter and His love, just as you are His sons and daughters and also His love. He is so amazing that each of us are so important to Him that HE SENT HIS SON TO DIE FOR US! His only son! He chooses to LOVE us even though WE KILLED HIS ONLY SON!
I know as a girl who has chosen to not flippantly give my heart away, it is hard! Discouragement is everywhere. So I wanted to encourage you who are choosing to wait for God’s chosen person or think you found him/her but are waiting still. First I will start with a verse to make you think. Song of Songs 2:7, 3:5, and 8:4 say, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” It says that 3 times! I think God is trying to get a point across here! You are not wrong to wait to give your heart away. In fact, guarding your heart is a good thing! Before you are ready to love another person, you need to love God with your whole heart. “How do I do that ?”, you ask. Spend time with Him! Instead of seeking relationships that won’t last, put your time, desires, and emotions into a relationship that will last forever. Read His love letter to you! Talk to Him like you would your bf/gf. God wants to have that relationship with you too! He wants to be your love and your best friend. The best part, He understands everything you’re going though! Your human bf/gf may not understand, but God does. Don’t be afraid to tell Him anything, He already knows your heart. And guys, this is for you too! God wants that best friend/love relationship with you just as He does with any of the girls.
So while you may be attracted to the opposite sex here on earth, remember that love was designed by our Greatest Lover and Creator. God doesn’t just say the words… He shows us in everything! Love isn’t just the words, love is action and Jesus set the biggest example. “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friend.” John 15:13. So when you say you “love” someone, be careful that it’s not just words and attraction saying it, but action too.


  1. Thank you, Breanna! What are your thoughts on people, who are waiting for their future husband/wife, but still have a gf/bf AND spend time with God? Just curious.

  2. I guess my question for you would be... if you have a bf/gf are you really waiting for your future husband/wife? If you believe that you have found the one... be careful to guard your heart still. One thing I see most often is teenagers thinking they have found the one and opening their heart, only to have it broken. Take time. :) No one said you have to rush things. As for spending time with God while having a bf/gf I think that's fantastic! Your bf/gf should help to inspire you to spend time with God! When you see him/her you should be able to think of how God has blessed you both with each other to inspire and help you along. :) Hopefully that answered your questions!

    God Bless!

  3. I don't have one yet...but I totally agree with you, Breanna!