Ahh the inevitable question that most, if not all, people ask at one time or another. How far is too far? When should I stop? Let’s take that question to God and see what He says on it. J
1st Corinthians 7:1-3 “Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.” Alright… so God doesn’t like sexual immorality! But I’m sure it’s not that bad…
Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Well then… Maybe it is that bad! :S
1st Thessalonians 4:3-8 “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.” YIPES! It is that bad! But… where does the line come in?? How far is too far?
Well according to God in 1st Corinthians 6:18-20 “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
So we are to flee from it! Not try to justify it or say “well I can play around with it as long as I don’t go all the way”. That is STILL sexual immorality and as you saw in the verses previously, it is something God doesn’t like at all! Why is God so harsh? Why does He say the line is NO SEXUAL IMMORALITY? Because He loves you! He wants to keep you safe from the things that will hurt you when you do them outside of God’s plans. Think of it this way, if your heart was paper and you glued it to another piece of paper that was your bf/gf’s heart and then you pulled it apart, pieces of your heart would be missing, and you would have some of their heart left on yours! Keep doing this with different hearts and there wouldn’t be much left of your own heart and a lot of pieces from other people to carry around. The baggage would be huge and just try to explain why you have this weird multi colored heart to your future husband/wife! I don’t think that would go over well… :P Another example is packing tape! If you stick masking tape on cardboard and pull it off it is still relatively sticky! But keep doing that and you lose the stick factor. The same is with relationships. If you keep giving your heart away then ripping it off, you are going to lose the ability to stick to one person! If you keep giving your body away to others to use and abuse, you will lose your ability to stick with one person and the likelihood of your future marriage being successful is way less.
This is a story I heard a while back and went “wow! How easy is it to think it’s not a big deal!”
“On the 16th Birthday of a girl her dad got her a beautiful charm bracelet. The charms were made of different valuable gems that sparkled and shined under the sunlight. She was amazed that her dad would spend so much on a bracelet for her. Her dad told her that this bracelet was more than just looks. It represented her purity. She was a bit surprised but listened anyways. He said that she was to wear it and whenever she did something for the first time with a boy, she was to give him the gem that went with it. One for holding hands for the first time. One for first kiss. One for first boyfriend. One for first saying “I love you”. One for first engagement. And so on. And when she got married she was to give her husband the bracelet. She agreed to it and wore the bracelet constantly. Throughout her young life she gave away different gems to different boys. Finally, when she was in her 20’s, she got married. On the night of her wedding she gave her new husband the bracelet. There were gems missing, and he noticed. He asked her why she had lost so many gems, and she had to explain to him where the gems went.”
If you think it would be hard to tell your future spouse about your past… imagine what God thinks of it? God wants to be your ultimate lover and protect you!
If you have already given away your “gems” you’re probably feeling guilty right about now. GOOD! This is God’s way of saying “HEY! You! You’re doing this wrong! Please, let me help you!” You may not ever get those things back, but He will forgive you!
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1st John 1:9
God will take those sins from you and wash you clean again. You can be pure in His eyes once again and start fresh in living the pure life with God. Hope is not lost if you are struggling! Find your strength in Him.
A verse to dwell on as you exit my blog.
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.”
Blessings
Breanna
Love this Breanna!
ReplyDeleteThanks! :) Its something I have strong stands with. :P
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